The GIFT of Presence


Our whole lives are made up of choices that we make; sometimes wise, sometimes spontaneous, sometimes out of pure frustration. The gift is to make sure that as we move forward, the choice was right for us. The gift is that when we know better, we do better.

Just like the sun sets each and every day, there is an opportunity to make different choices that better serve our values and create space for us to flourish. What changes do you want to make? What choices are not serving you?

By taking an opportunity this summer to recharge and sink into a vacation with my family, it provided me some time and space to reflect. Why is it that we cannot wait to break away for summer vacation and then forget to enjoy the moment? We are so anxious to go on vacation and then stress ourselves out with all the planning and preparation that we forget to actually enjoy ourselves….

What I realized is that I need to make better choices in how I choose to spend my leisure time. I want to be with the people that mean the most to me, IN THE MOMENT. I want to laugh so hard that tears are streaming down my face, I want to feel the last blast of hot summer air from the setting sun, I want to feel the cool mist of water as I bike ride down the road….


This summer has given me the gift of reminding me that I was making poor choices and not being aligned with what I value and hold most dearly.

Where in your life do you need to be more present? What gift are you thankful for?







What is it costing you?

Change is inevitable. Trying to be comfortable with the uncomfortable is something that we as humans, seem to manage, albeit not well. It is in our DNA to adapt to change – whether it is changing jobs, moving to another city, starting a new career, or adapting to life’s curve balls.

Much has been said about ‘keeping the status quo’ and not ‘rocking the boat’, yet it is in the discomfort of the change that we either dig in our heels or vow to make a change as something has got to give. If digging in our heels has successfully worked in the past and then more digging in will likely happen as more changes occur. Some people become master’s at ignoring and masking the pain.

Others vow to make a change as the status quo is too high a price to pay. The question then becomes what are the risks and how to manage the costs associated with the change. It is incredible what people are willing to put up with in order to avoid change.

What I now know, is that the price of not changing becomes too high as the erosion, although subtle, wears you down to a point that you do not even recognize yourself and your life…..

As Jack Canfield writes “All the good stuff is outside our comfort zone” and those words scare me, in a good way. What is outside YOUR comfort zone? What is possible in that uncomfortable area? What are you missing out on? 

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